We all experience heartbreak in one form or another at some point in our lives. I wrote my book “7 Spiritual keys to Healing from Heartbreak and Breaking the Pattern” to help those currently struggling in these difficult situations. This article is a short Summary of the book to give you an idea of what you will learn.
In my book 7 Spiritual Keys to Healing from Heartbreak and Breaking the Pattern each of these keys are explored in detail to help facilitate healing. Free-Spirited Faith has many resources including live seminars, online courses, art and Salsa dance classes, Healing from Heartbreak coaching and Passion Quest mentoring to aid in the healing process. I am very sorry you are in this trial dealing with heartbreak, and I am grateful that I can help. I hope you find these resources helpful on your journey to heal your own heartbreak and create a great future!
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7 Spiritual Keys to Healing from Heartbreak and Breaking the Pattern:
#1 Remember Your Divine Nature-
You are a precious daughter or son of the Master creator, who loves you no matter what! You do not lose worth in his sight because of the mistakes you have made, or the trials and challenges you have faced. A torn, crinkled up $100 bill is still worth the same $100 as a clean crisp fresh $100. Even if it has been ripped in half you can still paste it back together and it is STILL worth $100 no matter what! This is how God views his children, the value of a soul is great in the sight of God, no matter what.
As children of the Master creator we are in training learning to be master creators ourselves. We have the ability to create the experiences we want to have in our lives. I believe it is our responsibility to learn how to use this power and be co-creators in our lives with God.
#2 Everything Happens For a Reason-
Why do bad things happen to good people? Because we are here to learn and grow and no one is perfect. That means our own actions as well as those who affect us with their actions will be imperfect. We all agree to come to this planet and have experiences to help us learn, grow and become more like God. We knew it would not be easy. We all have a uniquely orchestrated journey through this life which includes our individual challenges and trials. These things teach us and help us develop all the characteristics that our Heavenly Father has.
#3 Identify Patterns and Take Responsibility-
Part of changing our life, is changing our patterns. How do we do this? By recognizing and changing any unsupportive beliefs and behaviors we may have. Often these subconscious beliefs that create patterns can easily be seen if we look at the repeat experiences we have in our relationship. (when we see the same things over and over again that are virtually the same thing in a different package). We are not “victims” of life, we need to take responsibility for these patterns, and for changing them. We are not victims of circumstances and experiences, we are the creators of them. I am not saying we are not responsible for the poor behavior of others in our lives. I am saying we are responsible our own behavior and for attracting others into our lives and allowing them to stay there when they are behaving poorly.
#4 Learn, Grow, and Let Go-
Since we are here on this planet to learn and grow in order to become more like God, it is critical that we actually learn from our difficult experiences, making changes to create something different rather than repeat them. Instead of asking WHY ME!?! and feeling like a victim, We need to ask ourselves WHY ME? what are the lessons this experience is here to teach me? What do I need to learn so I can create something different in the future?
Once we have identified the lessons, we need to take them, and make the necessary changes to implement them into our lives, then let the past go. Rather than holding onto the experience and re-living the pain or beating ourselves up over it, simply stop thinking about it and let go and forgive. Take the new knowledge you have gained, and rewire new neural networks in your brain. Then use the new knowledge to create and rewire new beliefs. Act according to these new beliefs to have new experiences and reinforce these new neural networks. As you reinforce the new neural circuits and neglect to use the old ones, the new ones will be solidified with Neural growth factor and the ols ones will be pruned away. (The book will teach you more specifics about how this process is done.)
#5 You Must Forgive–
This means forgiveness all around. This is often where most people get stuck in the healing process. It is the only way you can let go and move forward with your own life. You must have faith in God and his plan for you. You must forgive your Ex, Heavenly Father (if you’re blaming him, as I did), everyone else who contributed to your pain (i.e. the “other” woman or man in an affair situation, or the friends and family or others who made it worse because they just don’t understand,ect) and for many what is the most difficult to do, you must forgive yourself! Forgiveness is often very difficult, especially when the pain and damage is so real! As in cases of infidelity, and or abuse*. I understand this completely (My story is found in my book).
How do you forgive?
First pray and fervently ask God to help you forgive, through the amazing healing power of the Atonement.
Then start doing the work:
*Control your thoughts and therefore break old patterns and gain better control over your emotions.
*Use tools and exercises to help you forgive such as writing a letter to whoever you need to forgive (DO NOT send it). I have learned many tools to help you forgive and move forward which I share in my courses and coaching,
*Change your perspective on the situation and about those involved. Realize that everyone is doing their best at the time. We are all learning and growing that is why we are here.
Forgiving yourself can often be the hardest part of forgiveness. Personally, I had to continually remind myself that I had done my best at the time. I also had to let him be responsible for his own actions rather than taking the blame for them. I took responsibility for doing the work on myself to change subconscious patterns that were preventing me from having the healthy and happy relationship I want.
(disclaimer*-If there is abuse involved I suggest getting professional counseling to deal with it)
#6 Realize Your Divine Purpose-
In addition to being here to learn, grow, and make it back to our Heavenly father with a more developed soul, we are all sent here to this planet with a unique mission and personal journey. We each have a specific purpose and something to contribute to the world. Often our personal trials and the difficulties we have over come link us to our purpose and better prepare us for it. Once we rediscover what our divine purpose here is, we can use our personal pain to propel us towards fulfilling our mission.
#7 Passionately and courageously Create Your Dreams-
Like I said. We are made to be co-creators with God. We do this by creating our lives with His help. Through the power of intention and manifestation (also known as prayer and faith) we are able to create the things we want in our lives. You must first control your thoughts, which control your emotions, which lead to your choices and actions, which creates your experiences. Personality= Personal Reality.
Emotion= Energy in Motion. Where attention goes, energy flows, or in other words the things we focus on expand. So do not waste your thought and emotions in creating things that you don’t want.
You must be consistent and courageous in taking action in creating our dreams. Do not let your FEAR stop you. Fear=False Evidence Appearing Real
In my book 7 Spiritual Keys to Healing from Heartbreak and Breaking the Pattern each of these keys are explored in detail to help facilitate healing. Free-Spirited Faith has many resources including live seminars, online courses, Salsa dance classes, coaching/mentoring and “Passion Quests” to aid in the healing process. I am very sorry you are in this trial dealing with heartbreak, and I am grateful that I can help. I hope you find these resources helpful on your journey to heal your own heartbreak and create a great future!
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